How do we help Syria?. Papua New Guinea?

Before we jump in with solutions,  we need to examine whether our wisdom about solving others problems is deep enough

1. We get interested when things are really bad , when effective ( cf wasteful) influence is planned and prestress and pre growth orientated 
2. We have the same problems , but may not have really solved them. Take the simmering household type discussion that is two parties fighting each other in the same building that is both Syria, Iraq , afganistan , and Papua New Guinea ( Coastal VS Highlanders ?)    
3. What is said may result in wasted expenditure by governments . We like their expenditure to work - the stimulus will be removed once the public realize"  its not working " see point 1 
4. The presumption of an outside enemy is all wrong . Yet this is the dumb west 's distracted direction in some of these countries . Therefore  a vote for every person may not help . Democracy can kill a family ( (if U have more than 2 children????) These are families in trouble .
   What the people need is Pastoral care . Not necessarily disciplinary or dumb democracy numbers( what if one group is bigger and doesn't care )  care, 
5. The problem is an internal one - how we think about each other. Maybe an external threat ? but still an internal angst and to be dealt with that way.